Savage Love

VillageVoice.com – by Dan Savage

Q. I’m a high-school girl with big problems. All my life I’ve worn boy clothes and had male friends, mainly because I’m into “male” things like video games and geek stuff. As high school approached, Mother Nature flipped me off with DD breasts and hips that would make Shakira jealous. I don’t even identify as female. I’ve come to terms with the fact that my mentality doesn’t match up with my vagina. But now most male clothes don’t fit and my male peers don’t take me seriously because of my body, even though I wear my hair short, wear no makeup, and go by a male nickname. I’m not a lesbian; I like boys. I just wish I could be one of them, too. I’m too young for breast-reduction surgery or gender-reassignment counseling, but these are things I’m considering. My parents are shaken and unsure, but loving and supportive. My best friends have no idea of the issues I’m facing. Any tips on dealing with this? ?TROUBLED TOMBOY