BostonPhoenix.com – Dan Savage – from an August, 2005 Column
Note from Jon: Read the Question and then skip to the answer at: Okay, GIIRL, on to your issues… and I think it’s an interesting and pretty damn accurate look into the psyche or many Admirer’s…
I have been seeing this great guy for about two years now. A few months back I stumbled upon some she-male photos on our computer. When I confronted him, he said that it was in response to a “nightmare” he had from watching HBO late at night or something. I asked him to be honest with himself and me. I told him I could be GGG or that we could just be friends if he didn?t want to be with a natural woman anymore. He said he wanted to be with me.
Today, as I browsed for errant cookies clogging my computer, I found more she-male pics. Is my boyfriend gay? Is there anything I can do to help satisfy him sexually? What can I do emotionally? Is it better to try to maintain the relationship or encourage him to explore his desires? Whom can I refer him to? How can I help him?